The road to happy ever after starts with wedding bells. A wedding is a big deal and is treated as one of the most important milestones in a person’s life. That’s why most of us go all out when it comes to wedding planning. A lot of engaged couples set aside time to give their wedding as many personal touches as they can.
However, as huge a deal a wedding is, couples should also take the time to prepare for the marriage. A wedding is just a one-day event, after all, but a marriage is for life. A lot of people have great and fancy weddings but miserable marriages because they fail to prepare for life after the honeymoon stage.
We want to encourage more partners to prioritize marriage preps more than the wedding. Here are a few ways couples can help each other prepare for life after the event even as they plan their big day.
Have a clear understanding of each other’s purpose in life
You’ve probably heard of the saying “Love will see us through” or “Love will keep us alive.” While the thought of enduring life’s challenges with only love to bind you together, realistically speaking, love is never enough.
Love cannot put food on the table or a roof over your heads, after all. Love is never enough if the two of you don’t see eye to eye on major decisions in life.
You need to have a clearer understanding of your purpose in life as individuals. You need to be the ones pushing each other to fulfill their destiny and purpose and to live life fully achieving each other’s potential.
Spend plenty of time getting to know each other’s families
Marriage is more than just marrying the love of your life. It also entails marrying into each other’s families. We all know that no family is perfect and how each member of the family has different quirks.
While you have a whole lifetime ahead of you to get to know each other’s families, spending as much time with them as you can before you walk down the aisle will make it easier for you to relate with your in-laws.
Seek education, wisdom, and guidance from reputable sources
A successful marriage is not just built on passion and emotions. It is also founded on wisdom and discernment. Couples who take the time to seek advice and guidance from other happily married couples have better chances of making their marriage last.
Signing up for relationship counseling is also a great way to prepare for a life together as potential and typical marriage concerns are often discussed in sessions. This helps keep couples grounded and enlightened with the realities that marriage brings.
Don’t let the wedding preparations stop you from enjoying each other’s company
One of the funny and ironic (depends on how you look at it) things in wedding preps is how it becomes the source of arguments for couples, even sometimes to the point of calling the whole thing off. Yes, it happens. Mainly because of the stress and pressure. Wedding jitters are real, after all.
Understandably, weddings are a big deal, and couples want it to be as perfect as it can be. However, many couples make the mistake of focusing too much on the wedding and neglecting their partner’s needs. Just because you’re busy planning for a wedding shouldn’t hinder you from still enjoying each other’s company.
Take your mind off things sometimes. Go out on dates and do your best not to talk about wedding preparations. Even if things don’t go your way, pick your battles. Not every little detail is worth fighting or stressing over.
Surround yourself with people you trust to help you on your journey every step of the way
Just like in any other human endeavor, having a team behind you to support you and walk with your journey is important. Surrounding yourself with the right people — people that you trust, the ones that will tell you what you need to hear at all times — can help make your marriage stronger.
This is where spending time with family, close friends, and mentors before the big day pays off. It’s like you’re building a kingdom and you’re seeking out the best alliances that will help you succeed.
Preparing for a wedding is important, but ensuring that you have wedded bliss after the wedding and honeymoon stage should never be compromised. After all, what good is a fairy tale wedding if the marriage turns out to be a nightmare in the end?
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